72. Circularity of love

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Considering the duality of our world, just as there is the law of conservation of matter, there is also the law of the conservation of spirit, and the law of love, which drives the spirit—love as the highest form of awareness, both in receiving and radiating. The law of conservation of matter states that matter is not lost, only transformed, which is true in a closed system. The law of conservation of love in open systems, however, goes further, because, knowing the universality of humanity and analogies, it does not only consider the love given and received by people, but also the love that originates from its source, the One and Only. The love that continuously flows from the One does not distribute evenly, just as the distribution of matter in our material world is not even. So, let us ask ourselves: how well do we recognize the constant flow of love from the One? For the world to function properly, love must be in balance. As much as flows out, that same amount should flow back. Yet, we observe that the balance was disrupted long ago; we could say that for millennia, the balance of love is negative. 

When analysing love, it is difficult to speak of its quantity or quality, because how can we measure it (quantity), or what would be the difference between two types of love (quality)? Therefore, it is more useful to examine the conditions of giving and receiving love, namely the profane, non-traditional, selfish love (false love) according to the individual self, and its counterpart, the mystical, traditional, pure, unconditional, selfless love that belongs to the universal self. This can be compared to the changing emotions of love based on the individual self, versus the constant love based on the universal self. In the circularity of love and the preservation of balance, it is the mystical love of the universal self that plays a role. In the Middle Ages, it was already written that the knowledge of love could be attained through self-knowledge. Therefore, anyone who does not know themselves can only give the profane, conditional love represented by the individual self, which is soulless and meaningless. Selfless love is the highest quality of love because it is through giving our life, at the cost of our life, that we redeem others, without asking for any reward. This is what our Initiation Master did. 

What can be evaluated is the highest and most meaningful awareness linked to the universal self, and its dual counterpart, the sleepwalking. Our soul’s two states—awake or asleep—determine the conceived thought, the spoken word, and the executed action. It is therefore not entirely true that the one who gives more will receive more. Our task is to help the One in radiating love through our unconditional love, passing it on, and thereby improving the balance of love. Unconditional, qualitative love always means more and thus participates in maintaining the balance of love to a greater extent than the conditional, quantitative love. The mass person, on their own, cannot maintain the balance of love because the temptation of sinking into materiality and satisfying material desires blocks them from this. 

The rule for the balance of love, the practice of giving and receiving, is simple: if you want to be happy, give happiness; if you want joy, give joy; if you want love, love others; if you want freedom, give freedom; if you want attention, give attention to others; if you want help, help others, and the list goes on. The conclusion is simple: in order to receive something, we must first give. If everyone thought, spoke, and act in this way, the dual network of love would form—the house of the One, where the cornerstone is our Initiation Master. What we want, we must help others attain. We could also say that “one hand washes the other,” but here it is more than that, because the love we receive is multiplied, and the simple rules of quantitative mathematics no longer apply. 

The circularity of love begins when a harmonious relationship forms between two people, or between a person and the surrounding created world, when they speak in a common language, using common concepts, and sharing a common vocabulary. In human relationships, it holds true that I give something to someone, which can be a kind word, a smile, an advice, and kindness, a glass of water, an object, praise, or just a simple “thank you.” In our relationship with the created natural world, we can express our gratitude to the One for the sacredness that surrounds us by taking care of it. It is no coincidence that Eastern teachings, especially Buddhist and Zen teachings, place great emphasis on living in harmony with nature. The followers of these teachings increasingly train themselves to become initiates by learning from the order of nature. In most cases, it is not material things or objects that are most important, but attentiveness, care, and sympathy. This is the silent gift, for which no payment is required. It is no accident that the saying goes: "It is better to give, than to receive." Because the one who gives becomes more.